Second Mom Stability Checklist - Free Download Below!
Imagine us sitting across from each other, sipping on a cup of coffee or tea, sharing the struggles and triumphs of this wonderful yet challenging journey of motherhood. As we talk, I'd like to share something with you that may help you in establishing goals for yourself & your mom/second mom roles: the Four Pillars of Stability.
In our adventure as second moms, be it through adoption or blending families, stability can sometimes feel elusive. Yet, it's the very heartbeat that keeps our families thriving, and not just surviving. Here are the four essential pillars that create a solid foundation for your household:
1. Financial Stability:
Let’s face it, managing finances can be daunting. But understanding and establishing a financial plan brings a sense of security that trickles down to every family member. It's about ensuring we have what we need and a little extra for those unexpected moments life throws at us. Finances impact everything from education to family bonding activities; thus, budgeting and planning become a necessity, not just an option.
2. Health (Physical & Mental/Emotional):
Our well-being is crucial. Taking care of ourselves allows us to care effectively for our children. Physical health keeps us energized, while mental and emotional health keeps us resilient.
Consider — If you aren’t willing to look after your own well-being, how can you be trusted to look after others?
3. Social/Relational Support:
God created us for relationship, and it's crucial for us to develop a healthy support network. Whether it’s through friendships, church communities, or family ties, having relational stability means having people who uplift, encourage, and hold us accountable. For our children, seeing us engage in healthy relationships provides them with a model for their own social interactions.
4. Functional Routine & Structure:
We aren’t talking about rigid plans here, but rather a balanced, flexible routine that provides predictability and security. Such structure gives children, especially those from complex backgrounds, a safe haven. A stable routine eases transitions, reduces anxiety, and promotes a sense of normalcy.
In every one of these pillars, our faith in Jesus Christ remains the bedrock. It’s the guiding light through the inevitable storms and the backdrop for every decision, offering a peace that surpasses understanding. I always say, “Faith over fear,” because leaning on God provides a stability that transcends my human efforts.
As we consider these pillars, it’s important to recognize the unique challenges we face as second moms. We step into situations where previous attachments or traumas add layers of difficulty in achieving stability. But remember, every small step towards stability is a victory. As is maintaining a level of stability when shaken. Start from where you are, trusting that each effort paves the way forward.
I’m excited to offer you a free resource to begin strengthening these pillars in your life—Download Your Free Stability Checklist that you can start implementing today. Use it as a guide to assess your current landscape and map out practical steps towards a more stable family environment.
Before we wrap up, I warmly invite you to join our “Second Moms Circle” Facebook group where you will find a community of second moms walking this path alongside you. It’s a place for support, encouragement, and inspiration as we grow together in navigating life's intricate family dynamics. Come grow with us!
Join our Circle! Begin with the Second Moms Circle Facebook group —> [Facebook Group Direct Link]
Remember, you are not alone. Keep learning, keep growing, and keep loving.
Warmest blessings,
Dawn Baggett - The Post Adoption MOM Coach
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