Today I’m sharing a model process for you that can be transformative for the heart and home — the 3-Step Faith Focused Truth Model.
In the whirlwind of life as adoptive and second moms, it’s easy to get caught up in patterns of behavior or overwhelmed by conflicting feelings about the dynamics in our relationships. But here’s the good news:
Clarity and peace are within reach, and they begin with a faithful approach. 
So why not take a moment, grab your Bible and your journal, and join me in exploring this process?
Step 1: Facts
Start by reviewing the actual facts of the situation. Write down what you know to be true, without embellishments or assumptions.
These are the concrete details of your current reality. This step is about gaining clarity and stripping away the noise that often clouds our judgment.
For example, you may be seeing challenging behaviors in your child or experiencing tension with your spouse. Note these facts down. Remember, these are observations without the ‘story’ we often attach to them.
Step 2: Feelings & Thoughts
Now that you have the facts down, it’s time to capture your thoughts and feelings about them.
Allow yourself to be completely honest here, even if some of them are contradictory, surprising, or ones you’d rather not admit. God knows our hearts fully, and by confronting our feelings, we take an important step in understanding why we react the way we do.
Write down things like, “I feel overwhelmed when my child acts out,” or “I worry about the future when communication with my spouse breaks down.” This is your space for full honesty — pour it all out.
Step 3: Faith Focused Truth
Finally, it’s time to shift your attention heavenward. Prayerfully discern God’s view on your situation. Ask yourself —
“What truths does the Bible reveal about my circumstances?”
“What does God say about my identity and my relationships?”
This step requires listening with spiritual ears and open hearts to align our view with God’s. Adjust your perspective where needed, and write a brief and concise statement — your Faith Focused Truth — that encapsulates God’s truth over your life and helps you hold on to this truth going forward.
For example, “Despite challenges, I am equipped by God to be a nurturing and wise mother,” or “God’s plan is for unity in my family, and He is with us every step of the way.”
Utilize this Faith Focused Truth to replace fear with faith — a guiding beam of light in moments of uncertainty.
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By anchoring ourselves in the truths of God’s Word, we navigate our roles as second moms with grace and confidence. I encourage you to save this process and revisit it whenever you need to curtail confusion and rediscover peace.
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Faith over fear! Let’s keep learning, keep growing, & keep loving!
Blessings,
Dawn Baggett
